Peace, Love, and Happiness sound like hippy, New Age, or nebulous values. But in fact they have been found to be important life skills necessary for successful living.  People who possess these values to a high degree lead healthier, more productive, and more successful lives.

These values are skills that make up our Emotional Intelligence.  Emotional Intelligence has been described in many different ways: Street smarts, common sense, life skills, etc. Every theorist has a unique and particular vision of the skills that constitute Emotional Intelligence.

I base my work on eminent clinical psychologist Dr. Reuven Bar-On who defined fifteen Emotional Intelligence skills: Emotional Self-Awareness, Self-Regard, Self-Actualization, Impulse Control, Independence, Assertiveness, Optimism, Happiness, Interpersonal Relationships, Empathy, Social responsibility, Stress Tolerance, Flexibility, Problem Solving, and Reality Testing.

As you can see, Happiness is one of Dr. Bar-On’s Emotional Intelligence skills. The value I call Peace is composed of the Emotional Intelligence skills of Self-Regard, Self-Actualization, Optimism, Emotional Self-Awareness, and Flexibility.

The value of Love is composed of the Emotional Intelligence skills of Self-Regard, Self-Actualization, Interpersonal Relationships, Empathy, and Social Responsibility.

I based my work on Dr. Bar-On’s because the validity and reliability of his scientific study. Dr. Bar-On created a self-assessment to measure one’s Emotional Intelligence Quotient (EQ). Just like an intelligence test measures one’s IQ, Bar-On’s Emotional Quotient Inventory (EQ-i) measures to what degree a person possesses each one of the fifteen skills.

Furthermore, Dr. Bar-On’s work has found that people who are successful in a particular profession share the same Emotional Intelligence skills. For example, successful managers are high in Independence, Flexibility, and Problem-Solving; successful salespeople are high in Self-Regard, Interpersonal Relationships, and Optimism.

Whereas our intelligence is pretty much fixed, our Emotional Intelligence can be increased through training. The purpose of my blog is share the experiences and exercises that helped me increase my Emotional Intelligence.

In future blogs I will be breaking down my “hippy” values of Peace, Love, and Happiness and explain each in more detail. I will also be giving you ways that you can increase you competence in each one of the Emotional Intelligence skills that make up these values.

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