How can we deal with loss?

Bad things happen in life. We get laid off from our jobs, our cars are wrecked in accidents, and we lose loved ones. How we deal with loss is a reflection of how we live our lives.

“When you are sorrowful look again in your heart, and you shall see that in truth you are weeping for that which has been your delight.” Kahlil Gibran.

While a job or car can be replaced in time, maybe with great difficulty, some things and people can never be replaced. One of kind items, photos, and sentimental items that are loss can cause us great grief; they can never be replaced and we miss them in our lives.

The loss of a loved one, especially suddenly and before their time, can bring pervasive sorrow to our lives and completely change us. Losing a loved one can seem like the end of the world to us. How can we continue without them? How can we overcome our sorrow and lead happy lives again?

One way is to cherish the memory of the lost loved one. Remember the good and special times you shared with that person. Smile and be happy for the time you were able to share while they were in your life. In this way you are building a living, positive memorial to that loved one.

Another way is to do what that person would want you to do. If that person was still alive and with you, what would they tell you do to do if you had lost someone else you loved? Wouldn’t they tell you to get on with your life, to somehow find happiness again? Don’t you think that they would want you to be happy, leading a fulfilling life now?

Do not lose your life when you lose another. Live the happy life that they would want you to live. Be the person that they would want you to be. That is the best way to cherish their memory.

 





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